One of the hardest lessons for me to learn, is to trust my husband’s intuition. I don’t see what he sees, I don’t have the same thought processing, and I have not had the same experiences. So trusting him when he wants to buy a 5 ton, or change his career is hard. But what is even harder, is trusting him with our kids.
As mothers, we are fiercely protective of our children, we believe that we know best and can do a better job. So we say we trust them, but will comment saying well ‘it’s better if you do it this way’ or ‘I wouldn’t have done it that way’ or ‘why did you do it that way’. Making them question their parenting and making it so they don’t want to help because they start doubting themselves and do not want to feel judged. We complain they are unhelpful but do we allow them to act on their intuition and trust their parenting style.
This is a hard lesson to learn, but if we know that they also love their children and also want them to be their best self, then we can know that they will parent the way they feel is best. Their parenting style may be totally opposite from you but as long as you are a united front and continue to support each other, you can still achieve your goals for raising children. So the next time you ask for help with the kids to put them to bed, or feed them, do not tell him how to do it and trust in his intuition that he has the same values and goals for his kids. He just might take a different path.