As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I believe that my husband is the head of our house. But too often after we hear that the man is the head, the women is then the neck upon which he turns. I recently decided this is my most hated saying because it creates an environment where the women decides for the family, the women tells the husband what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. Not allowing the women to create and follow her own dreams, goals, and aspirations because she is too busy directing her husband. She becomes unfulfilled and resentful because she has nothing that is hers. But this also creates lazy, unfulfilled, and directionless men who are not able to think for themselves or trust their intuition. Creating a robotic marriage where no one is happy.
This is what my marriage felt like for the first 2-3 years, my marriage felt hallow as I lost myself to my husband creating one entity where we were always meant to be two. We are two separate people who experience similar situations vastly different. When I finally allowed myself to cut away from my marriage and focus on my own thing, I finally found my passion and found myself. I was able to stop trying to force my husband in a direction and instead trusted his intuition and honored his journey of getting there. I became responsible for my happiness and fulfillment in life instead of blaming my husband because he couldn’t read my mind. In doing so, I was able to create a marriage that is stronger, more intimate, and worth fighting for. I created my dream marriage because I stopped focusing on directing my husband and started trusting and supporting him in his journey. I started directing my life and where I wanted it to go.
Because of all that I went through, I have a passion for helping women in similar situations. Helping to create powerful marriages by cutting them in half so that they are able to both become more fulfilled in their own identity while finding their marriage identity. I help women find their passion and identity separate from their marriage so they are able to be more independently united. Being able to reach their dreams while trusting their husband’s intuition so he too can chase his dreams and passions. You do not need to give up on your marriage to find yourself again, you can find more joy and fulfillment in your marriage all you have to do is stop being the neck and start being the wife who supports but does not give permission to their husband’s intuition.