Date Night!

When it comes to weekly dates, my husband and I are not the best. We do watch TV every night together and sometimes folding laundry is thrown into the mix. Our date nights are probably more impromptu errand shopping turned into date because someone is watching our kids. Though these are still important and are good opportunities to spend time with your spouse, taking the time to plan meaningful and purposeful dates can deepen your connection with your spouse.

Yesterday, we got a date night box courtesy of my sister’s Christmas gift to us. I cannot tell you the last time my husband and I had such a deep connection and so much fun on a date, best part we did not even have to leave the comfort of our home. What I truly enjoyed about this box though, was it gave us an opportunity to look back on the last 12 months of our lives and how we got to where we are. We got to spend time thinking about our relationship, about people who have influenced our relationship, even about who have gotten to influence our lives. Next we played a game to encouraged us to set goals for the future, personal and relationship goals. We got to discuss why we chose those goals and what we hope will be accomplished by achieving them. Last we played a game that allowed us to share our appreciation for each other and compliment our spouse. This date night box allowed us to remember who we are and learn about who we want to become.

Having meaningful date nights where you can truly get to know your spouse again are so important because it allows us to go deeper in our relationship instead of staying on the surface. Why is it so hard to do? I think for one, is the price. Dates can get super pricey and if you have kids you also have to pay for a babysitter. We tell ourselves, “we cannot afford to go out, or pay for a date night box in the house”. But I am here to tell you, that when it comes to your relationship, never look at the price but the value that it will bring to you. Obviously, you do not need to go extravagant every date because there are plenty of date night ideas where it is affordable and easy. Another sister told me about how her and her boyfriend did a paint night in their home. she already had all the supplies and they found a picture and did their best at copying it.

The point is, date nights are important and they are worth investing the time and money into. As you invest into your relationship, you will find a greater and deeper connection with your spouse. Stop looking for excuses and start looking for opportunities that will bring you closer to your spouse.