I’m not sure about you, but sometimes I wait for something before I feel I can reach my dream. I think this is especially true for many in marriage. For those with kids, waiting until your kids are out of the diaper stage before you really start to date your spouse, or waiting until your kids can watch one another so you do not have to find a babysitter. We are constantly making excuses as to why we settle for less in our marriage. Children, careers, and education always get in the way and we tell our spouse and ourselves, “once we are over this bump, we’ll date more.” The problem with this theory is that when that bump is over, another will take its place. Before we know it, we are so out of tune with our spouse that we are not even sure where to start.
Also, many think that we cannot have our ideal marriage unless we are starting it anew. This way of thinking keeps us from achieving a happy marriage now. Don’t wait for the new year, or the beginning of the week, or whatever fresh start you think you need to make your marriage what you want it to be. Start now! Look at yourself and ask, “what type of marriage do I want?” Well, I’m not sure about you, but I do not want to wait to have my ideal marriage until the bumps are over because that would be a lifetime wasted.
So? What are you waiting for? It doesn’t matter where your marriage is at, you can start changing yourself and see how it changes your marriage. My dad has always said to me, “it’s not about finding the right one, but being the right one.” We think that if we are going to have the marriage that we want, then our spouse needs to start picking up the slack. When what really needs to happen, is we need to take a deep look within ourselves to truly find what we want and then start being that person. When you do, you just might be surprised with how quickly you can have the marriage you always dreamed of.