If you could describe your dream marriage, what would it look like? How would it feel? As you answer these two questions, you are creating an intention in your mind of the marriage you want. So the next question would be, how do I get there? As we turn our mind to the steps to get to our dream marriage, we lose focus on what are dream marriage looks like. To often we focus on the steps to creating the perfect marriage. While we really should be looking towards the future of how we want our marriage to be then just take the next right step.
In a basic training course I took with my husband back in April, they taught us this simple equation. Intentions(x)+Mechanisms(y)=Results(100%). They than had us solve for x and y. Some said 50/50, others 30/70, or 55/45. All were wrong. The answer was 100/0.
So what does that mean? That means stop worrying about how your gonna get to your dream marriage and start creating the vision in your mind of how your dream marriage looks like. Write it down, get specific, and really ask yourself what you want your marriage to look like. Then take the next right step and live your dream marriage.
Grab a pen and paper right now and answer these questions. What does my dream marriage look like? How do I feel about my dream marriage? What behaviors do I and my spouse have that creates my dream marriage? What does this dream couple do on a monthly, weekly, daily, and hourly basis? When writing it down, write it present term. Write it as if it is happening right now and you are telling someone you are living in your dream marriage.
Get as specific as possible. Write as many details as you can think of so you can truly see this image in your head. Talk about emotions that are felt, and conversations that are said, and activities that you are doing in your dream marriage.
When you are done, read it over and be really honest with your self. Is that your dream marriage? Is there something missing? Is there something there that actually isn’t important? When you are finished, read it every day.
The song from Frozen 2, “do the next right thing” has become my mantra. stop trying to create this list, or these steps you need to follow to get to your perfect marriage. Just focus on your vision/intentions for your marriage and you’ll be surprised how quickly you change and start seeing that you are already living in your dream marriage and you will make the next right thing to do every time.